Monday, February 27, 2006

"Brokeback" rides into US popular culture

LOS ANGELES (Reuters) - It began as a simple love story between two gay cowboys that movie critics wondered whether America would embrace.

But in three short months, "Brokeback Mountain" is not only an Oscar front-runner but has found its way into U.S. popular culture, inspiring parodies, jokes and cartoons across the spectrum from politics to pop music.

Seen the "Kickback Mountain" poster parody reflecting the corruption scandal sweeping the U.S. Congress? Laughed at TV comedian David Letterman's "Top 10 Signs You're a Gay Cowboy" (10."Your saddle is Versace")? Heard Willie Nelson's new recording "Cowboys are Frequently, Secretly Fond of Each Other?"

Actually seen the movie? Probably not.

"I wish I knew how to quit you" might have become the coolest phrase to throw around during a lovers' tiff but with a mere $72 million U.S. box-office, "Brokeback" is hardly a blockbuster.

"Many, many more people have told a 'Brokeback Mountain' joke than have seen the movie. It's one of those things that has really transcended itself and gotten way more attention than its box office indicates," said culture expert Robert Thompson, director of the Center for the Study of Popular Television.

As an astonished Jake Gyllenhaal said this week after winning a British Film Academy award for best supporting actor, "Who would have thought this would happen?"

In 2004, voters in 11 U.S. states backed amendments to define marriage as a union between a man and a woman, making movie industry watchers nervous about "Brokeback's" reception outside the liberal East and West coasts.

COMEDIANS CAN'T RESIST

Those outside the gay community have responded to the movie's universal love theme. But its niche in popular culture owes much to the fact that the story turns the 195Os and 60s Western -- a showcase for the manly American cowboy -- on its head.

"The idea of taking this very modern 21st century story of tender love between two cowboys and putting it into the time period of an old Western opens up the floodgates for telling jokes," said Thompson. "Comedians can't resist because we all know what a cowboy movie is and this challenges it."

Two of the shirts worn by the men in the movie sold for $100,000 on the Internet this week.

The gay activist buyer called them "the ruby slippers of our time," a reference to the most famous item worn by Judy Garland in "The Wizard of Oz."

TV's ratings hit "American Idol" got in on the act with its own "Brokenote Mountain" spoof last week.

The New Yorker magazine, whose cartoonists have had a field day with the movie's theme of forbidden love in the wilds of Wyoming, gave readers "Watch Your Back Mountain" this week. The two protagonists were accident-prone hunter and Vice President Dick Cheney and President George W. Bush.

"That poster is a template to project so many different pairings with so many different meanings. It is an image that captures the imagination but begs to be remade," said Marty Kaplan, director of the Norman Lear Center, which examines the impact of entertainment on society.

Spread quickly by the Internet and by bloggers, much of the fun at "Brokeback's" expense has been affectionate and, as such, mostly welcomed by the gay community.

Paul Levinson, professor of communication and media studies at Fordham University, said there was already a growing interest in gay relationships in mainstream heterosexual culture.

"'Brokeback' came along at the right time. It was a popular culture success waiting to happen," he said.

Friday, February 17, 2006

'Life not for sissies'

'Brokeback' point? 'Life not for sissies'
Screenwriter Larry McMurtry says film has no agenda

NEW YORK (AP) -- Larry McMurtry, who co-wrote the Oscar-nominated screenplay for "Brokeback Mountain," says the film's meaning can be summarized: "Life is not for sissies."

McMurtry, a Pulitzer Prize-winning author whose books include "Lonesome Dove," adapted Annie Proulx's story with Diana Ossana for "Brokeback Mountain." The film, nominated for eight Academy Awards, has elicited some controversy for its gay cowboy plot -- something McMurtry thinks is off-base.

"It doesn't present any kind of agenda, any politics at all, one way or the other at all. It just says life is not for sissies," McMurtry says in an interview with "CBS News Sunday Morning," to air Sunday (9 a.m. EST).

"Brokeback Mountain" stars Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal as two cowboys who maintain a secret relationship in difficult circumstances. As the years go by, one is more willing to sacrifice than the other.

"You need strength; love is not easy," says McMurtry. "It's not easy if you find (it), it's not easy if you don't find it. It's not easy if you find it but it doesn't work out. It merely says the strong survive, but not everybody is strong."

McMurtry, 69, was nominated for an Oscar in 1972 for co-writing the screenplay (adapted from his novel) of "The Last Picture Show" with Peter Bogdanovich.

Overcoming ‘gay fatigue’

OPINION | washingtonblade.com

Overcoming ‘gay fatigue’
Gay, gay, gay. Gay dinner parties, bars parades, books, movies and friends. Just when I’d had enough, it hit me.

By K. PEARSON BROWN
Feb. 17, 2006

I HAVE NAMED the malaise from which I suffered: "gay fatigue."

No, it’s not an allusion to the camouflage pants that shirtless gay men donned with combat boots to look macho in the disco era; it’s a thoroughly modern feeling of being tired of the whole gay thing.

That’s right. I was burned out on GLBT.

Gay, gay, gay.

Over the years, I have joined any number of gay clubs and volunteered for gay causes. I co-founded a networking group for lesbians in the entertainment industry, which was an endless gala of gay mixers with gay gals.

Then of course, in my private life I held gay dinner parties, went to gay bars, marched in gay parades, read gay books and saw gay movies.

After nearly a decade and a half of community activism, I wanted out of being out.

THE MOUNTAIN OF hype surrounding the gay cowboy movie that needs not speak its name was the straw that broke my back. It seemed that the film and its gay theme had become the topic of every coffee chat, news report, TV talk show, radio program, magazine article and late-night monologue.

As I was striding on my elliptical trainer in my bedroom one morning watching the "Today Show," yet another commercial came on for this groundbreaking love story that was destined to become a classic.

I suddenly felt exhausted, and it wasn’t the elevation to Level 9 on the Himalayan Trek: I was suffering from gay fatigue. I was tired of all of the fuss over homosexuality.

As I cruised into a virtual valley on my stepper, I imagined Katie Couric cooing about romantic Valentine’s outings for same-sex couples. "Guys, take your boyfriend out for a candlelight dinner," or "Ladies, how about an Olivia cruise for the two of you?" Why not?

I fantasized about us as gay people being considered not as queer but as ordinary folk; not defined or pigeonholed by our sexual orientation, not seen by straight society first as gay and second as relatives, neighbors, co-workers, doctors, teachers, shop clerks, Pilates instructors or whatever.

Rosie O’Donnell defended staying in the closet so long because she didn’t want her name preceded by an adjective for eternity. "Lesbian Rosie O’Donnell," she said, "It’s like ‘Aries Rosie O’Donnell’ or ‘size-10-shoe Rosie O’Donnell."

I couldn’t agree more, I thought. And then I thought, "That’s a pretty big foot."

As I hit a plateau and strode at Level 7, I realized I had no choice but to accept that despite millions of TV-watching middle-American housewives welcoming a big dyke into their living rooms everyday-—-Ellen, not Martha-—-they still view us differently than themselves.

THEN I WONDERED, just how do they think we are different? Well, everyone knows that gay men-—-think Fab Five-—-dress, groom, decorate and cook better than straight men, and way better than gay women.

Gay women-—-think Martina-—-are better athletes than straight women, and way better than gay men-—-think Fab Five. Gay men are excellent dancers, and gay women are good talk show hosts.

It occurred to me that being gay makes an average Joe or Joely more interesting, more individual. It’s like having a hip, cool style without having to work at it.

I thought about how we as gay people have formed alternative, extended families. We take care of each other, support each other, spend holidays together, and host potlucks and throw Academy Awards parties together. And despite the common saying, "You can’t pick your family," we did.

With that, I started to feel a little sorry for those people that my gay old friends Richard and Tucker-—-partners for 58 years-—-refer to as "non-gay."

As the machine beeped and congratulated me on a great workout that burned 432 calories in 45 minutes, I no longer felt weary. Instead, I felt energized. Light in my loafers, so to speak.

Suddenly I felt like a gay cowboy myself. A trailblazer. I had taken the road less traveled, less common and less ordinary. While the truth is that we do our daily dozen, go to work, come home and microwave our leftovers just like everyone else, if straight people want to think that we are different, in fact fascinating, then let them.

Like those bumper stickers ask, "Why Be Normal?" After all, different is good. Some might even say extraordinary.

© 2006 The Washington Blade | A Window Media Publication

Thursday, February 16, 2006

THE WAR WITHIN

The war WITHIN Islam rages

Via http://theantipath.com

Islamists in Bangladesh are demanding the government “ban” Ahmadiyya Muslims because they are not “real” Muslims. 4,000 radical Islamists took to the streets of the Muslim neighborhood, scaring many Ahmadiyya Muslims out of their homes. They want to “capture” the Mosque. They have threatened violence if the Bangladeshi authorities intervene. This has been going on for some time now; there is some background here.

Well, to their credit, the authorities did intervene. They stood up for religious freedom and blocked these fundamentalist Islamists from bullying the other local Muslims.

To everyone who was so keen on plastering the media with Mohammad cartoons to show “solidarity”, how about giving some credit to the Muslims around the world who are fighting against religious bigotry and bullying just like we are. Where is the west when it is time to stand up and show some actual solidarity with Muslims and the principle of religious freedom? Will this story rocket through the blogosphere? Will it make it onto the cable news shows?

Or will so many Americans and Europeans keep insisting on characterizing this struggle as” Islam” vs. “The West”?


Protests rise against Muslim sect


By Roland Buerk
BBC News, Bogra, northern Bangladesh


The protesters had gathered to hear their neighbours denounced as heretics and infidels.

"Kaffir, kaffir," the mullah shouted into his microphone again and again, looking over the crowd from the makeshift stage set up on the back of a truck. "Infidel, infidel."

And he led the demonstrators in a chant: "Ahmadiyyas are not Muslims."

For four hours, the leaders of the International Khatme Nabuwat Andolon exhorted their followers in the main square of Bangladesh's northern town of Bogra.

The crowd swelled to far more than 5,000, most wearing skull caps.

At times the voices of the speakers cracked with emotion and they sobbed into the microphone.

There were tears among their audience too, and shouts of rage.

Scattered

The target of this passionate hatred was the Ahmadiyya community, sometimes called Ahmadis.

"They don't obey our prophet as the last prophet," shouted one supporter.

"We'll force the government to ban them," added the protester next to him.

Another vowed: "We'll continue our jihad against them, we'll continue our marches."

There are 100,000 members of the Ahmadiyya community in Bangladesh.

They are scattered in pockets in cities, towns and villages up and down the country.

The campaigners of the International Khatme Nabuwat Andolon Bangladesh has organised a series of rallies demanding that the government formally declare that members of the sect are not Muslims.

Pakistan ruling

In Bogra, the protesters had threatened to lay siege to the Ahmadiyya mosque.

For the members of the community in the town it was a day of real fear.

Inside their compound, behind police barricades, they were sitting in their tiny prayer hall.

Just a few dozen pairs of sandals were lined up outside.

In Bogra, as throughout Bangladesh, the Ahmadiyyas are a tiny minority.

They were having a lesson in their religion, sitting on the floor, listening to a teacher.

The sect was founded by Hadhrat Mirza Ghulam, who was born in the town of Qadian in Punjab in 1835.

The Ahmadiyyas believe he was the Imam Mahdi, or the Promised Messiah.

The more orthodox are still waiting for his arrival.

It is a doctrine that has led to their movement being persecuted in some countries.

In Pakistan, legislation was passed in 1974 declaring the Ahmadiyya community non-Muslims after a series of riots.

But until recently they were allowed to worship without interference in traditionally tolerant Bangladesh.

Signboard

"We did not think that we would have to face such a situation because we believe in Allah and we pray for Allah," says Khandker Azmal Haq, the president of Rajshahi Ahmadiyya Muslim Jamaat.

"So in this praying house, why do these people come to crush us?"

Already the government has bowed to some of the protesters' demands.

In January 2004, the home ministry issued a notice announcing that books published by the Ahmadiyya community were outlawed.

A statement said the ban "was imposed in view of objectionable materials in such publications that hurt or might hurt the sentiments of the majority Muslim population of Bangladesh".

Human rights lawyers are challenging the ruling in the courts.

They believe an important principle is at stake.

"There is a tendency to establish a monolithic, mono-religious strain in the political situation in Bangladesh," says Sultana Kamal, a lawyer with the human rights organisation Ain o Salish Kendra.

"We think this is just one of the cases, that there will be very many cases if this is not stopped right now."

In the end the protesters were kept away from the Ahmadiyya mosque in Bogra.

But later in the evening, after they had dispersed, the police replaced the signboard on the building.

It read: "The Qadiani upasanalaya (place of worship) in Bogra town: Muslims, do not be fooled into thinking it is a mosque."

Watching, some members of the Ahmadiyya community burst into tears.

It was a small concession by the local police to the demands of the International Khatme Nabuwat Andolon, but the campaigners want much more.

They have given the government until 23 December to declare the Ahmadiyyas are not Muslims, otherwise, said one speaker in Bogra, there will be blood in the streets.

Ledger: 'Brokeback' exceeded my hopes

BERLIN, Germany (AP) -- Heath Ledger says "Brokeback Mountain," which is nominated for eight Oscars, has already exceeded his expectations for the film.

The Ang Lee-directed movie about a longtime affair between two cowboys is nominated for best director, best picture and best actor for Ledger.

Other nominations include best supporting actress for Ledger's fiancee, Michelle Williams, and best supporting actor for co-star Jake Gyllenhaal.

"The movie's already exceeded any expectations I had," Ledger told reporters Wednesday at the Berlin International Film Festival. "I think pleasing Annie Proulx, the writer, and getting her nod of approval was the biggest success for me, for us."

Ledger said he felt the movie "will surprise people."

"Unfortunately people are very quick in life to label something that they're uncomfortable with," he added. "It transcends a label. It's a story of two human beings that are in love; get over the fact that it's two men -- that's the point. ... If you can't understand it, just don't go see the movie."

Ledger was in Berlin to promote "Candy," a film that saw him return to his native Australia and star as a man who joins his girlfriend on a downward spiral into heroin addiction.

"It was incredibly liberating in the sense that it was the first film I've done using my own accent in about eight years," he said.

"Candy" is one of 19 films competing for the annual Berlin festival's top Golden Bear prize. Directed by Neil Armfield and based on a novel by Luke Davies, it also stars Abbie Cornish and Geoffrey Rush.

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Why Doesn’t He?

Exerpts From Miles Mogulescu Blog on Huffington Post:

President Bush and his surrogates have proclaimed many times that opposition to the Iraq war is dangerous, demoralizes the troops, encourages the enemy, and threatens America’s chances for victory.

If Bush believes that opposition to the war threatens national security, why doesn’t he have the right to act against opponents to the Iraq war to protect national security? Apparently government agents have already spied on a small Quaker peace group.

Why then shouldn’t Bush have the power to wiretap the phones of Iraq war opponents from Rep. Murtha to Cindy Sheehan?

Why shouldn’t he have the right to infiltrate anti-war groups with government informants?

Why can’t he place agent provocateurs in anti-war groups to incite violent demonstrations in order to discredit the anti-war movement which is harming national security?

Since the President has the right to take all actions he thinks necessary to protect national security, why couldn’t he censor newspapers that oppose the Iraq War?

Why couldn’t he arrest Iraq war opponents, and hold them without charges and without the right to a trial until he decides that the “War on Terror” is over?

Taken to the extreme, why couldn’t he torture Iraq war opponents based on his signing statement to the McCain anti-torture Amendment which states that the President can bypass this law if he believes doing so protects national security?

I’m not saying that these things will happen. I’m saying that Bush’s theory of President’s unilateral war time powers could justify such actions and more.

Make up your mind, Dick

Q Would you describe him (Mr. Whittington)as a close friend, friendly
acquaintance, what --

THE VICE PRESIDENT: No, an acquaintance.


Later....

THE VICE PRESIDENT: What happened to my friend as a result of my
actions, it's part of this sudden, you know, in less than a second, less
time than it takes to tell, going from what is a very happy, pleasant
day with great friends in a beautiful part of the country, doing
something I love -- to, my gosh, I've shot my friend. I've never
experienced anything quite like that before

Ummm.... No

Brit: "....There's some sense -- and perhaps not unfairly so --
that you kind of hung him (Scott McClellan)out to dry. How do you feel about that?

Dick: ".....I had a bit of the feeling that the press corps was
upset because, to some extent, it was about them -- they didn't like the
idea that we called the Corpus Christi Caller-Times instead of The New
York Times. But it strikes me that the Corpus Christi Caller-Times is
just as valid a news outlet as The New York Times is, especially for
covering a major story in south Texas."

One Word

"Vajayjay"

'gay vultures' return to the closet

Jerusalem Biblical Zoo's 'gay vultures' return to the closet
By Varda Spiegel, Haaretz Correspondent

Jerusalem's conservative religious population may welcome the news that the city's legendary "gay vultures" have "returned to the closet."

Yehuda, the remaining "gay" vulture in a pair of male Griffon vultures that built nests, mated, and raised three adopted chicks for a period of three years, has finally chosen a female partner, Jerusalem Biblical Zoo director Shai Doron said Wednesday.

The first stirrings of Yehuda's new relationship coincided with Valentine's Day, Tuesday.

Last year, Yehuda's longtime partner, Daishik, took up with a new female partner and was subsequently moved to the Tel Aviv-Ramat Gan Zoological Center.

In 1997, zookeepers first noticed that the two male Griffin vultures in the zoo's flagship breeding and reintroduction-to-nature program were exhibiting all of the signs of mating behavior, including building a nest and copulating.

They also rejected all female overtures.


The zoo decided to provide the "gay couple" with a plaster-filled dummy egg to see what they would do. Yehuda and Daishik astonished their keepers by brooding in turns. Impressed by their devoted "incubation" of the artificial egg, keepers decided to introduce a chick and, once again, the male vultures' superb parenting skills exceeded all expectations.

The decision to let the male vultures raise chicks was not merely motivated by curiosity. Female vultures lay only one egg a year, unless that egg is removed from the nest - in that case, the mother will lay another egg in a process called "double clutching."

Allowing Yehuda and Daishik to step in as "surrogate mothers" presented the potential of increasing the numbers of nearly extinct Griffin vultures.

Despite the fact that Yehuda showed all the signs of depression one would typically expect from a scorned lover when Daishik opted for a lifestyle change, zoo director Doron was happy to see first Daishik and then Yehuda choose female partners. "We have no intention of making any attempt to reintroduce the male vultures.

"The Griffon vulture breeding and reintroduction program is one of the zoo's most important conservation projects, and we prefer to see the new couples go on to breed so that we can release their nestlings in nature."


Via Haaretz.com

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Seasoned to within an inch of his life.

"The Daily Show With Jon Stewart" (Comedy Central)

A partial transcript:

Jon Stewart: "Yes, as you've just heard, a near-tragedy over the weekend in south Texas. Vice President Dick Cheney accidentally shot a man during a quail hunt at a political supporter's ranch. Making 78-year-old Harry Whittington the first person shot by a sitting VP since Alexander Hamilton.

"Hamilton, of course, shot in a duel with Aaron Burr over issues of honor, integrity and political maneuvering. Whittington? Mistaken for a bird.
* * *

The other player in the drama? Ranch owner and eyewitness Katharine Armstrong.

Katharine Armstrong: "We were shooting a covey of quail. The vice president and two others got out of the car to walk up the covey."

Jon Stewart: "What kind of hunting story begins with getting out of your car? As I sighted the great beast before us, my shaking hands could barely engage the parking brake. Slowly, I turned off the A/C and silenced my sub-woofers…"
* * *

Katharine Armstrong: "A bird flushed. The vice president took aim at the bird and shot and unfortunately, Mr. Whittington was in the line of fire and got peppered pretty well."

Jon Stewart: "Peppered. There you have it. Harry Whittington, seasoned to within an inch of his life.
* * *

Jon Stewart: "I'm joined now by our own vice-presidential firearms mishap analyst, Rob Corddry. Rob, obviously a very unfortunate situation. How is the vice president handling it?

Rob Corddry: "Jon, tonight the vice president is standing by his decision to shoot Harry Wittington. According to the best intelligence available, there were quail hidden in the brush. Everyone believed at the time there were quail in the brush.

"And while the quail turned out to be a 78-year-old man, even knowing that today, Mr. Cheney insists he still would have shot Mr. Whittington in the face. He believes the world is a better place for his spreading buckshot throughout the entire region of Mr. Whittington's face."

Jon Stewart: "But why, Rob? If he had known Mr. Whittington was not a bird, why would he still have shot him?"

Rob Corddry: "Jon, in a post-9-11 world, the American people expect their leaders to be decisive. To not have shot his friend in the face would have sent a message to the quail that America is weak."

Jon Stewart: "That's horrible."

Rob Corddry: "Look, the mere fact that we're even talking about how the vice president drives up with his rich friends in cars to shoot farm-raised wingless quail-tards is letting the quail know 'how' we're hunting them. I'm sure right now those birds are laughing at us in that little 'covey' of theirs.

Jon Stewart: "I'm not sure birds can laugh, Rob."

Rob Corddry: "Well, whatever it is they do … coo .. they're cooing at us right now, Jon, because here we are talking openly about our plans to hunt them. Jig is up. Quails one, America zero.

Jon Stewart: "Okay, well, on a purely human level, is the vice president at least sorry?"

Rob Corddry: "Jon, what difference does it make? The bullets are already in this man's face. Let's move forward across party lines as a people … to get him some sort of mask."

That's never stopped them in the past.

"Late Show with David Letterman," CBS

# "Good news, ladies and gentlemen, we have finally located weapons of mass destruction: It's Dick Cheney."

# "But here is the sad part -- before the trip Donald Rumsfeld had denied the guy's request for body armor."

# "We can't get Bin Laden, but we nailed a 78-year-old attorney."

# "The guy who got gunned down, he is a Republican lawyer and a big Republican donor and fortunately the buck shot was deflected by wads of laundered cash. So he's fine. He took a little in the wallet."

"The Tonight Show with Jay Leno," NBC

# "Although it is beautiful here in California, the weather back East has been atrocious. There was so much snow in Washington, D.C., Dick Cheney accidentally shot a fat guy thinking it was a polar bear."

# "That's the big story over the weekend. ... Dick Cheney accidentally shot a fellow hunter, a 78-year-old lawyer. In fact, when people found out he shot a lawyer, his popularity is now at 92 percent."

# "I think Cheney is starting to lose it. After he shot the guy he screamed, 'Anyone else want to call domestic wire tapping illegal?' "

# "Dick Cheney is capitalizing on this for Valentine's Day. It's the new Dick Cheney cologne. It's called Duck!"

"The Daily Show with Jon Stewart," Comedy Central

# The show's segment titles included "Cheney's Got a Gun," "No. 2 With a Bullet" and "Dead-Eye Dick."

# "Vice President Dick Cheney accidentally shot a man during a quail hunt ... making 78-year-old Harry Whittington the first person shot by a sitting veep since Alexander Hamilton. Hamilton, of course, (was) shot in a duel with Aaron Burr over issues of honor, integrity and political maneuvering. Whittington? Mistaken for a bird."

# "Now, this story certainly has its humorous aspects. ... But it also raises a serious issue, one which I feel very strongly about. ... Moms, dads, if you're watching right now, I can't emphasize this enough: Do not let your kids go on hunting trips with the vice president. I don't care what kind of lucrative contracts they're trying to land, or energy regulations they're trying to get lifted -- it's just not worth it."

"Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson," CBS

# "He is a lawyer and he got shot in the face. But he's a lawyer, he can use his other face. He'll be all right."

# "You can understand why this lawyer fellow let his guard down, because if you're out hunting with a politician, you think, 'If I'm going to get it, it's going to be in the back.' "

# "The big scandal apparently is that they didn't release the news for 18 hours. I don't think that's a scandal at all. I'm quite pleased about that. Finally there's a secret the vice president's office can keep."

# "Apparently the reason they didn't release the information right away is they said we had to get the facts right. That's never stopped them in the past."

Top Ten

Top Ten Dick Cheney Excuses

10. "Heart palpitation caused trigger finger to spasm"

9. "Wanted to get the Iraq mess off the front page"

8. "Not enough Jim Beam"

7. "Trying to stop the spread of bird flu"

6. "I love to shoot people"

5. "Guy was making cracks about my lesbian daughter"

4. "I thought the guy was trying to go 'gay cowboy' on me"

3. "Excuse? I hit him, didn't I?"

2. "Until Democrats approve medicare reform, we have to make some tough choices for the elderly"

1. "Made a bet with Gretzky's wife"

Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Did You Hear the One About 'Brokeback'?

By THE ASSOCIATED PRESS

Filed at 6:51 p.m. ET

NEW YORK (AP) -- Some of the ''Top Ten Signs You're a Gay Cowboy,'' courtesy of David Letterman:

--You enjoy ridin', ropin' and redecoratin'.

--Instead of a saloon, you prefer a salon.

--Native Americans refer to you as ''Dances With Men.''

Is the bottomless font of ''Brokeback Mountain'' humor -- late-night monologues, fake Internet movie trailers, movie poster imitations -- harmless and fun, or insulting?

Most gay groups find it fairly benign, and note that in any case, the movie's overwhelming publicity can only be a good thing.

''Some of the humor may be insensitive, but even that has spurred positive conversation,'' says Susanne Salkind of the Human Rights Campaign, the largest national gay rights group.

But Matt Foreman, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, says he's sick of it: ''It may be funny, but there is a real element of homophobia. It's making jabs about sex between gay men.''

Jay Leno made at least 15 ''Brokeback'' jokes in January. Many were references to gay sex. One that wasn't: ''The cold weather continues to spread across the United States. In fact, down south it was so cold people were shaking like Jerry Falwell watching ''Brokeback Mountain.''

The Internet is saturated with ''Brokeback'' imitations. One of the best is a fake movie trailer called ''Brokeback to the Future,'' which uses deftly edited shots from Michael J. Fox's ''Back to the Future'' to make it look like Marty McFly and that wacky Dr. Emmett Brown are falling in love. There's also ''Top Gun 2: Brokeback Squadron,'' with Tom Cruise and Val Kilmer.

And then there are the poster imitations. Like ''Kickback Mountain,'' with the faces of indicted lobbyist Jack Abramoff and Rep. Tom DeLay superimposed over those of Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal.

Andy Borowitz, author of The Borowitz Report.com, says people get insulted by everything -- ''so the safest bet is to make jokes about everything.''

Besides, he says, ''I run into so few gay cowboys in Manhattan. So I think if I'm at a cocktail party and I make a good 'Brokeback' joke, I'll be safe. I guess if I were on a ranch and there were a few strong, silent types, I'd be careful.''

Of the movie's iconic line, ''I wish I knew how to quit you,'' Borowitz says he's ''hoping it'll become the new 'Show me the money.'''

Paul Rudnick, a playwright and comedy writer, sees the humor as coming from heterosexual men who are both fascinated and very uncomfortable with the content of the movie.

''They're not quite sure what to make of it,'' says Rudnick, who is gay. ''They know their wives are going to fall in love with the movie, and with the men in it.''

Rudnick hasn't written about ''Brokeback'' yet -- but only because he'd have to find something really original.

''Just joking about a gay cowboy isn't enough anymore,'' Rudnick says. ''If you're going to joke about it now, you really have to be up to the challenge.''

Monday, February 06, 2006

An Affair to Remember

New York Times Book Review
By Daniel Mendelsohn

Brokeback Mountain
a film directed by Ang Lee, based on the story by E. Annie Proulx

Brokeback Mountain—the highly praised new movie as well as the short story by Annie Proulx on which the picture is faithfully based—is a tale about two homosexual men. Two gay men. To some people it will seem strange to say this; to some other people, it will seem strange to have to say it. Strange to say it, because the story is, as everyone now knows, about two young Wyoming ranch hands who fall in love as teenagers in 1963 and continue their tortured affair, furtively, over the next twenty years. And as everyone also knows, when most people hear the words "two homosexual men" or "gay," the image that comes to mind is not likely to be one of rugged young cowboys who shoot elk and ride broncos for fun.

Two homosexual men: it is strange to have to say it just now because the distinct emphasis of so much that has been said about the movie—in commercial advertising as well as in the adulatory reviews—has been that the story told in Brokeback Mountain is not, in fact, a gay story, but a sweeping romantic epic with "universal" appeal. The lengths to which reviewers from all over the country, representing publications of various ideological shadings, have gone in order to diminish the specifically gay element is striking, as a random sampling of the reviews collected on the film's official Web site makes clear. The Wall Street Journal's critic asserted that "love stories come and go, but this one stays with you—not because both lovers are men, but because their story is so full of life and longing, and true romance." The Los Angeles Times declared the film to be

a deeply felt, emotional love story that deals with the uncharted, mysterious ways of the human heart just as so many mainstream films have before it. The two lovers here just happen to be men.
Indeed, a month after the movie's release most of the reviews were resisting, indignantly, the popular tendency to refer to it as "the gay cowboy movie." "It is much more than that glib description implies," the critic of the Minneapolis Star Tribune sniffed. "This is a human story." This particular rhetorical emphasis figures prominently in the advertising for the film, which in quoting such passages reflects the producer's understandable desire that Brokeback Mountain not be seen as something for a "niche" market but as a story with broad appeal, whatever the particulars of its time, place, and personalities. (The words "gay" and "homosexual" are never used of the film's two main characters in the forty-nine-page press kit distributed by the filmmakers to critics.) "One movie is connecting with the heart of America," one of the current print ad campaigns declares; the ad shows the star Heath Ledger, without his costar, grinning in a cowboy hat. A television ad that ran immediately after the Golden Globe awards a few weeks ago showed clips of the male leads embracing their wives, but not each other.

The reluctance to be explicit about the film's themes and content was evident at the Golden Globes, where the film took the major awards—for best movie drama, best director, and best screenplay. When a short montage of clips from the film was screened, it was described as "a story of monumental conflict"; later, the actor reading the names of nominees for best actor in a movie drama described Heath Ledger's character as "a cowboy caught up in a complicated love." After Ang Lee received the award he was quoted as saying, "This is a universal story. I just wanted to make a love story."

Because I am as admiring as almost everyone else of the film's many excellences, it seems to me necessary to counter this special emphasis in the way the film is being promoted and received. For to see Brokeback Mountain as a love story, or even as a film about universal human emotions, is to misconstrue it very seriously—and in so doing inevitably to diminish its real achievement.

Both narratively and visually, Brokeback Mountain is a tragedy about the specifically gay phenomenon of the "closet"—about the disastrous emotional and moral consequences of erotic self-repression and of the social intolerance that first causes and then exacerbates it. What love story there is occurs early on in the film, and briefly: a summer's idyll herding sheep on a Wyoming mountain, during which two lonely youths, taciturn Ennis and high-spirited Jack, fall into bed, and then in love, with each other. The sole visual representation of their happiness in love is a single brief shot of the two shirtless youths horsing around in the grass. That shot is eerily—and significantly—silent, voiceless: it turns out that what we are seeing is what the boys' boss is seeing through his binoculars as he spies on them.

After that—because their love for each other can't be fitted into the lives they think they must lead—misery pursues and finally destroys the two men and everyone with whom they come in contact with the relentless thoroughness you associate with Greek tragedy. By the end of the drama, indeed, whole families have been laid waste. Ennis's marriage to a conventional, sweet-natured girl disintegrates, savaging her simple illusions and spoiling the home life of his two daughters; Jack's nervy young wife, Lureen, devolves into a brittle shrew, her increasingly elaborate and artificial hairstyles serving as a visual marker of the ever-growing mendacity that underlies the couple's relationship. Even an appealing young waitress, with whom Ennis after his divorce has a flirtation (an episode much amplified from a bare mention in the original story), is made miserable by her brief contact with a man who is as enigmatic to himself as he is to her. If Jack and Ennis are tainted, it's not because they're gay, but because they pretend not to be; it's the lie that poisons everyone they touch.

As for Jack and Ennis themselves, the brief and infrequent vacations that they are able to take together as the years pass—"fishing trips" on which, as Ennis's wife points out, still choking on her bitterness years after their marriage fails, no fish were ever caught— are haunted, increasingly, by the specter of the happier life they might have had, had they been able to live together. Their final vacation together (before Jack is beaten to death in what is clearly represented, in a flashback, as a roadside gay-bashing incident) is poisoned by mutual recriminations. "I wish I knew how to quit you," the now nearly middle-aged Jack tearfully cries out, humiliated by years of having to seek sexual solace in the arms of Mexican hustlers. "It's because of you that I'm like this—nothing, nobody," the dirt-poor Ennis sobs as he collapses in the dust. What Ennis means, of course, is that he's "nothing" because loving Jack has forced him to be aware of real passion that has no outlet, aware of a sexual nature that he cannot ignore but which neither his background nor his circumstances have equipped him to make part of his life. Again and again over the years, he rebuffs Jack's offers to try living together and running "a little cow and calf operation" somewhere, hobbled by his inability even to imagine what a life of happiness might look like.

One reason he can't bring himself to envision such a life with his lover is a grisly childhood memory, presented in flashback, of being taken at the age of eight by his father to see the body of a gay rancher who'd been tortured and beaten to death—a scene that prefigures the scene of Jack's death. This explicit reference to childhood trauma suggests another, quite powerful, reason why Brokeback must be seen as a specifically gay tragedy. In another review that decried the use of the term "gay cowboy movie" ("a cruel simplification"), the Chicago Sun-Times's critic, Roger Ebert, wrote with ostensible compassion about the dilemma of Jack and Ennis, declaring that "their tragedy is universal. It could be about two women, or lovers from different religious or ethnic groups—any 'forbidden' love." This is well-meaning but seriously misguided. The tragedy of heterosexual lovers from different religious or ethnic groups is, essentially, a social tragedy; as we watch it unfold, we are meant to be outraged by the irrationality of social strictures that prevent the two from loving each other, strictures that the lovers themselves may legitimately rail against and despise.

But those lovers, however star-crossed, never despise themselves. As Brokeback makes so eloquently clear, the tragedy of gay lovers like Ennis and Jack is only secondarily a social tragedy. Their tragedy, which starts well before the lovers ever meet, is primarily a psychological tragedy, a tragedy of psyches scarred from the very first stirrings of an erotic desire which the world around them—beginning in earliest childhood, in the bosom of their families, as Ennis's grim flashback is meant to remind us—represents as unhealthy, hateful, and deadly. Romeo and Juliet (and we) may hate the outside world, the Capulets and Montagues, may hate Verona; but because they learn to hate homosexuality so early on, young people with homosexual impulses more often than not grow up hating themselves: they believe that there's something wrong with themselves long before they can understand that there's something wrong with society. This is the truth that Heath Ledger, who plays Ennis, clearly understands—"Fear was instilled in him at an early age, and so the way he loved disgusted him," the actor has said—and that is so brilliantly conveyed by his deservedly acclaimed performance. On screen, Ennis's self-repression and self-loathing are given startling physical form: the awkward, almost hobbled quality of his gait, the constricted gestures, the way in which he barely opens his mouth when he talks all speak eloquently of a man who is tormented simply by being in his own body—by being himself.

So much, at any rate, for the movie being a love story like any other, even a tragic one. To their great credit, the makers of Brokeback Mountain—the writers Larry McMurtry and Diana Ossana, the director Ang Lee—seem, despite the official rhetoric, to have been aware that they were making a movie specifically about the closet. The themes of repression, containment, the emptiness of unrealized lives—all ending in the "nothingness" to which Ennis achingly refers—are consistently expressed in the film, appropriately enough, by the use of space; given the film's homoerotic themes, this device is particularly meaningful. The two lovers are only happy in the wide, unfenced outdoors, where exuberant shots of enormous skies and vast landscapes suggest, tellingly, that what the men feel for each other is "natural." By contrast, whenever we see Jack and Ennis indoors, in the scenes that show the failure of their domestic and social lives, they look cramped and claustrophobic. (Ennis in particular is often seen in reflection, in various mirrors: a figure confined in a tiny frame.) There's a sequence in which we see Ennis in Wyoming, and then Jack in Texas, anxiously preparing for one of their "fishing trips," and both men, as they pack for their trip—Ennis nearly leaves behind his fishing tackle, the unused and increasingly unpersuasive prop for the fiction he tells his wife each time he goes away with Jack— pace back and forth in their respective houses like caged animals.

The climax of these visual contrasts is also the emotional climax of the film, which takes place in two consecutive scenes, both of which prominently feature closets—literal closets. In the first, a grief-stricken Ennis, now in his late thirties, visits Jack's childhood home, where in the tiny closet of Jack's almost bare room he discovers two shirts—his and Jack's, the clothes they'd worn during their summer on Brokeback Mountain—one of which Jack has sentimentally encased in the other. (At the end of that summer, Ennis had thought he'd lost the shirt; only now do we realize that Jack had stolen it for this purpose.) The image —which is taken directly from Proulx's story—of the two shirts hidden in the closet, preserved in an embrace which the men who wore them could never fully enjoy, stands as the poignant visual symbol of the story's tragedy. Made aware too late of how greatly he was loved, of the extent of his loss, Ennis stands in the tiny windowless space, caressing the shirts and weeping wordlessly.

In the scene that follows, another misplaced piece of clothing leads to a similar scene of tragic realization. Now middle-aged and living alone in a battered, sparsely furnished trailer (a setting with which Proulx's story begins, the tale itself unfolding as a long flashback), Ennis receives a visit from his grown daughter, who announces that she's engaged to be married. "Does he love you?" the blighted father protectively demands, as if realizing too late that this is all that matters. After the girl leaves, Ennis realizes she's left her sweater behind, and when he opens his little closet door to store it there, we see that he's hung the two shirts from their first summer, one still wearing the other, on the inside of the closet door, below a tattered postcard of Brokeback Mountain. Just as we see this, the camera pulls back to allow us a slightly wider view, which reveals a little window next to the closet, a rectangular frame that affords a glimpse of a field of yellow flowers and the mountains and sky. The juxtaposition of the two spaces—the cramped and airless closet, the window with its unlimited vistas beyond—efficiently but wrenchingly suggests the man's tragedy: the life he has lived, the life that might have been. His eyes filling with tears, Ennis looks at his closet and says, "Jack, I swear..."; but he never completes his sentence, as he never completed his life.

One of the most tortured, but by no means untypical, attempts to suggest that the tragic heroes of Brokeback Mountain aren't "really" gay appeared in, of all places, the San Francisco Chronicle, where the critic Mick LaSalle argued that the film is

about two men who are in love, and it makes no sense. It makes no sense in terms of who they are, where they are, how they live and how they see themselves. It makes no sense in terms of what they do for a living or how they would probably vote in a national election....

The situation carries a lot of emotional power, largely because it's so specific and yet undefined. The two guys—cowboys—are in love with each other, but we don't ever quite know if they're in love with each other because they're gay, or if they're gay because they're in love with each other.

It's possible that if these fellows had never met, one or both would have gone through life straight.

The statement suggests what's wrong with so much of the criticism of the film, however well-meaning it is. It seems clear by now that Brokeback has received the attention it's been getting, from critics and audiences alike, partly because it seems on its surface to make normal what many people think of as gay experience— bringing it into the familiar "heart of America." (Had this been the story of, say, the love between two closeted interior decorators living in New York City in the 1970s, you suspect that there wouldn't be full-page ads in the major papers trumpeting its "universal" themes.) But the fact that this film's main characters look like cowboys doesn't make them, or their story, any less gay. Criticisms like LaSalle's, and those of the many other critics trying to persuade you that Brokeback isn't "really" gay, that Jack and Ennis's love "makes no sense" because they're Wyoming ranch hands who are likely to vote Republican, only work if you believe that being gay means having a certain look, or lifestyle (urban, say), or politics; that it's anything other than the bare fact of being erotically attached primarily to members of your own sex.

Indeed, the point that gay people have been trying to make for years—a point that Brokeback could be making now, if so many of its vocal admirers would listen to what it's saying—is that there's no such thing as a typi-cal gay person, a strangely different-seeming person with whom Jack Twist and Ennis Del Mar have nothing in common—thankfully, you can't help feeling, in the eyes of many commentators. (It is surely significant that the film's only major departure from Proulx's story are two scenes clearly meant to underscore Jack's and Ennis's bona fides as macho American men: one in which Jack successfully challenges his boorish father-in-law at a Thanksgiving celebration, and another in which Ennis punches a couple of biker goons at a July Fourth picnic—a scene that culminates with the image of Ennis standing tall against a skyscape of exploding fireworks.)

The real achievement of Brokeback Mountain is not that it tells a universal love story that happens to have gay characters in it, but that it tells a distinctively gay story that happens to be so well told that any feeling person can be moved by it. If you insist, as so many have, that the story of Jack and Ennis is OK to watch and sympathize with because they're not really homosexual—that they're more like the heart of America than like "gay people"—you're pushing them back into the closet whose narrow and suffocating confines Ang Lee and his collaborators have so beautifully and harrowingly exposed.

Sunday, February 05, 2006

Gay flamingos are both family men

By Richard Savill The Telegraph
(Filed: 04/02/2006)

Carlos and Fernando, male flamingos at the Slimbridge wildfowl reserve in Gloucestershire, are inseparable.

They have been together for more than five years and have even reared foster chicks.

Twice a year they perform the elaborate courtship dance usual to males and females, before building a nest.

Homosexual activity is not unknown within the animal kingdom but few people know about it, according to zoologists. Keepers at Slimbridge said it was unique among their flamingos.

Nigel Jarrett, the reserve's aviculture manager, said: "They seem very happy. They will probably stay together for the rest of their lives.

"They are not picked on by the other birds. If anything they are afforded more respect because two males together can be a pretty fearsome prospect for the other flamingos."

The pair have reared three generations of adopted flamingos, by making off with the freshly laid eggs of their heterosexual neighbours.

Mr Jarrett said: "They have been known to fight the heterosexual birds and steal their eggs. There is usually a 'handbags-at-10 yards' moment where they scrap with the couple before stealing the egg.

"They are very good parents though and behave just as the heterosexual birds do when rearing their young."

The pair are Greater Flamingos, native to the Mediterranean and Africa, and live on algae and small fish.

As well as male flamingos that mate, there are male ostriches that only court their own gender. Film-makers recently caught female Japanese macaque monkeys engaged in intimate acts.

Male penguins have been known to pair up and engage in sexual activity, while ignoring potential female mates.

Adrian Walls, a bird keeper at London Zoo, said: "Homosexual behaviour is often seen amongst birds in captivity, but it is not often long-lived. If they go a long time without chicks, they often search out a different sex partner."

Friday, February 03, 2006

Gay in the NFL

Super Bowl star's new book reveals gay-bashing threats, locker room dangers, discrimination and the power of faith and love to overcome

By Jan Stevenson
Originally printed 2/2/2006 (Issue 1405 - Between The Lines News)

Esera Tuaolo struck fear into the hearts of every opposing National Football League quarterback. As one of the best defensive nose tackles in the NFL, it was his job to attack the quarterbacks, and he was excellent at his job.

Looking at him, it is hard to imagine that he could ever fear anyone. At 6 foot three inches tall and a solid, 260-pound wall of muscle, he is quick, aggressive and athletic. But Tuaolo was scared in the NFL - all the time because Esera Tuaolo is gay. Throughout his successful nine year NFL career that culminated in a trip to Miami for Super Bowl XXXIII, he was terrified that if someone discovered his secret he would lose everything he had worked so hard to achieve.

Tuaolo announced he is gay in 2002, only after he retired as a player. His former Green Bay Packers teammate Sterling Sharpe, an all-Pro receiver, confirmed Tuaolo's worst fears in an interview with HBO's Real Sports. Bryant Gumbel asked him how he felt about Tuaolo being gay. Sharpe said, "If the guys found out another player was gay on Monday, he wouldn't be able to play on Sunday," essentially admitting that a gay player would be gay-bashed by his own teammates. "Question my heart, question my ability, but do not question my machoism," said Sharpe.

"Sterling just confirmed what I already knew," said Tuaolo in a telephone interview with BTL from his home in Minneapolis. "We were friends, and I don't hold it against him. He was just saying it like it is."

Tuaolo's new book, "Alone in the Trenches," chronicles his remarkable rise to the pinnacle of professional sports, all the while hiding his true identity. The first chapter, titled "The Torments of Success," captures how he struggled with his extraordinary fame and his fear of being found out as a gay man.

"It's so hard," said Tuaolo. "We live in a society that is so unaccepting of gays in sports. I look back, now that I'm out, and I see game films and I say, 'Wow! I was an incredible athlete.' It just got more difficult, the more I was in the limelight, the more I would pull back. I was afraid that someone would recognize me and it really took a toll on me. Working in such a homophobic environment, I realized it could all be taken away. All the success, my career - everything. And it wasn't just me who would suffer. I support not only me, but my mom, and my sisters, too."

One of Tuaolo's toughest moments came right after the 1999 Super Bowl in which the Denver Broncos defeated his team, the Atlanta Falcons. The team bus returned to their hotel and all the players' wives and families were out waiting for them. Tuaolo's life-partner, Mitchell Wherley, was there, but they did not dare approach each other in public.

"It hurt," said Tuaolo. "Seeing the smiles of the other families, how the players held their wives and being able to be free to be themselves. Here we were in the closet, running in the shadows. Coming off that bus, and seeing all the wives and families come up and hug the players, because that was what we needed. We had just lost a game we should have won. The Super Bowl - something that important, you can't get that back."

But since he has come out as a gay professional athlete, he is experiencing a new freedom and joy that he could only dream of before. Wherley and Tuaolo live together with their two adopted children, five-year-old Samoan twins named Mitchell, Jr. and Michelle.

"They are only five, but they are big, like almost eight year olds, and they have a lot of attitude," said Tuaolo who was able to adopt with Wherley as co-parents under Minnesota law. "To have kids who call us Big Daddy and Little Daddy, it just melts you. I have been waiting for it my whole life and it's here. I can't wait to have a bunch of grandkids so I can tell them my 'war stories.'"

Faith and Family

Family and faith mean everything to Tuaolo. He was born on the island of Oahu, Hawaii as the youngest of eight children in an immigrant Samoan family. They were desperately poor, living in a dirt floor hut on the family's small banana farm. Esera ran freely on the beautiful sandy beaches of Hawaii, and as he grew bigger and stronger he struggled with his awakening sexuality. He felt it was a burden and a curse. He is a devout Christian and turned to prayer, but at night he would lie awake terrified that God was going to cast him into a lake of fire because of his curse.

"Later in life I came to realize that God loves me the way I am - as a gay man," said Tuaolo. "I am a Christian, and a Christian has respect for other people."

Tuaolo said he has lots of issues with NFL players who wear their religiosity on their sleeves, and who even use it to segregate their teams into Christian cliques. Especially when he played for a year with the Jacksonville Jaguars he was turned off by the pompous attitudes of some players in the Champions for Christ group.

"Christianity does not turn me off. The love of God doesn't turn me off," said Tuaolo. "The CFC segregation didn't work for me. I went to a Bible study, and 'lo and behold' it was about homosexuality. I was thinking, 'Is this a sign?' That was what really turned me off."

So which team does Tuaolo think will win the Super Bowl in Detroit this weekend?

"I'm rooting for the Steelers," he said. "[Steelers' Strong Safety] Troy Polamalu is a distant cousin, so I have to root for his team. We played together as kids. He's my family, and family sticks together."

Tuaolo has a burgeoning new career in singing and acting, but he hasn't ruled out a possible return to the gridiron.

"I'm 36 years old and in the best shape of my life. In fact I'm even better than when I retired, because I'm not banged up. If I got an offer from a Canadian team - maybe. I would sure consider it," said Tuaolo, who would love to be able to play football in front of his kids.

"The best part of being an ex-NFL star is that my son looks at my jerseys and says, 'I wanna be a football player like Big Daddy.' I would definitely play for a few seasons for sure."

Who knows - Tuaolo may yet become the first out, gay, professional football player in action. If Mitchell, Jr. has any say in the matter, it could happen.

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Coretta Scott King

Via Andrew Sullivan:

"I still hear people say that I should not be talking about the rights of lesbian and gay people, and I should stick to the issue of racial justice. But I hasten to remind them that Martin Luther King Jr. said 'Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.' I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.'s dream to make room at the table of brother- and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people.

Homophobia is like racism and anti-Semitism and other forms of bigotry in that it seeks to dehumanize a large group of people, to deny their humanity, their dignity and personhood. This sets the stage for further repression and violence, that spreads all too easily to victimize the next minority group.

Gays and lesbians stood up for civil rights in Montgomery, Selma, in Albany, Georgia, and St. Augustine, Florida, and many other campaigns of the civil rights movement. Many of these courageous men and women were fighting for my freedom at a time when they could find few voices for their own, and I salute their contributions." -

Coretta Scott King, in 1999 at the 25th Anniversary luncheon for the Lambda Legal Defense Fund.

Love makes ‘Brokeback’ Oscar favorite

















COMMENTARY

By Erik Lundegaard
MSNBC contributor
Updated: 10:35 a.m. ET Jan. 31, 2006

Tale of star-crossed lovers attracts audience, Academy votes

I first saw a trailer for “Brokeback Mountain” during an opening night showing of “The Constant Gardener” at the Lagoon Theater in self-consciously liberal Minneapolis. There were titters from the crowd (possibly from the line “I wish I knew how to quit you!”), and afterward my friend Laurion leaned over and said, “Gay cowboys: I’ve never seen it before and it’s already a cliché.” I thought, “Well, so much for that. If it can’t win over this crowd it can’t win over anyone.”

That was in September.

A few months later my friend Jim in Seattle asked me about “Brokeback.” Jim’s a movie buff, always intrigued by the Oscar candidates, but he said he wasn’t interested in “Brokeback.” He couldn’t articulate why. My sister’s husband, Eric, in Detroit, another movie buff, was similarly uninterested. I had assumed both Jim and Eric within “Brokeback’s” demographic: liberal city-dwellers with gay friends. I thought, “Well, so much for that. If it can’t win over these guys it can’t win over anyone.”

That was in November.

As I write this it’s nearly February and while many people are still tittering — “I wish I knew how to quit you” gags, movie poster parodies, Pres. Bush’s press conference — the film is the furthest thing from a joke. “Brokeback” has been chosen the best picture of the year by The Golden Globes, The Producers Guild of America, Boston Film Critics, Broadcast Film Critics, L.A. Film Critics, N.Y. Film Critics and (big surprise) San Francisco Film Critics. It’s got nine BAFTA (British Academy Award) nominations, and the Directors Guild of America tapped “Brokeback’s” Ang Lee as best director. What should be its biggest awards rival, “Munich,” has largely been forgotten (zero BAFTA nominations, for example), leaving only smaller films like “Capote” and “Good Night and Good Luck” as competition. A win at the Academy Awards on March 5th already feels like a fait accompli.

More startling than its critical reception, it’s selling. Focus Features played the numbers game correctly. When “Brokeback” showed in only five theaters they talked up its huge per-screen-average of over $100,000. When it opened wider and its per-screen-average dipped to normal levels (less than $10,000), they talked up its weekly and overall take. It debuted December 9th at no. 15 and hasn’t dropped lower since. It was no. 8 the following week and then 14, 13, 8, 9, and 5. Early estimates for this weekend place it sixth, with an overall gross of $50 million. Where are the other best picture contenders? None are in the top 10, and none except “Walk the Line” and (just barely) “Crash” have grossed as much as “Brokeback.” No, not even Spielberg’s flick. Think about that for a minute.

All of this in a country that annually passes laws outlawing gay marriage or denying “special rights” (or what the rest of the civilized world calls “rights”) to gay people.

What the hell happened?

Here’s the short answer. “Brokeback Mountain” is a spare, powerful film about star-crossed lovers.

That’s it.

We love our love stories. The only love stories we love more are the ones where the lovers are kept apart by forces beyond their control, such as family (“Romeo and Juliet”), class (“Titanic”), or war (“The English Patient”). Anticipation is better than consummation — particularly in drama. Keep the lovers apart! Tease us! Frustrate us! There’s nothing more boring than happy loving couples — in drama or in life.

But how to keep the lovers apart? That’s the question for dramatists everywhere. “Brokeback” offers a new take on an old subject. It’s the ultimate forbidden love — because part of the population is ready to kill you for acting on it.

Thus the question that everyone was asking before the movie’s release — Is “Brokeback” too much for middle America? — turned out to be the wrong question. The real question was: Is “Brokeback” too much for middle-American women? It’s women who drive these types of stories, after all. They had to twist their boyfriends’ arms just to see “Titanic” — and that one offered a topless Kate Winslet. “Brokeback” offers us topless women, too, but in sadder circumstances, and with that still-squeamish-for-straight-men front story. No amount of arm-twisting, it seems, can get many of these guys to head up Brokeback Mountain. But women are so broad-minded, or so in need of a love story, that they’ll go even when their gender isn’t part of the equation.

All of the awards haven’t hurt either. “Brokeback’s” got so much buzz it’s vibrating, and women have never shied away from things that vibrate.

The personal answer

I have to admit that “Brokeback” didn’t look particularly appealing to me from that September trailer. A hopeless, doomed romance. Yay. I also admit to some straight-guy trepidation — but of the general rather than the Larry David “it might make me gay” variety. If the number of times I got screwed over by women in my youth didn’t lead me to consider an alternative, there’s nothing Heath Ledger can do now.

But when I finally saw “Brokeback” I found it nearly perfect. It’s more than a love story; it’s really about loneliness, which is a more universal emotion anyway. Some of us haven’t been in love; some of us don’t believe in love. Everyone’s been lonely.

It’s ambiguous enough to argue about endlessly. Heath Ledger’s Ennis del Mar feels like the man in the film — in the one sex scene, he gives rather than receives — and he’s taciturn and bottled-up in the way of men. He talks with his fists, and sometimes he talks too much, but he’s gentle with women and never has a harsh word for his daughters. One could argue he’s what we want the American man to be. As Manohla Dargis wrote in The New York Times, “I don't know a single straight woman who hasn't been involved with a man as emotionally thwarted as Ennis, the man who can't tell you how he feels because he may not honestly know.” Exactly. Tease us! Frustrate us!

But Jake Gyllenhaal’s Jack Twist actually outmans Ennis. Jack won’t be circumscribed by society. He stands up to his father-in-law, he stands up to his father, he stands up. He tries to live his dreams. Forget everyone else. Forget Ennis, too. If Ennis won’t have the ranch with Jack, Jack will just have it with someone else.

Ennis isn’t strong like that. He’s so scared of who he is he begins to disappear within himself. An early shot shows him leaning against the boss-man’s trailer, head down, cowboy hat covering his face. It’s cowboy cool a la James Dean. Throughout the film Ennis keeps that cowboy hat covering his face but with each frame it becomes more tragic — a man too scared to be seen. Don’t look at my face because you might see who I am. He gives himself a smaller and smaller spot on which to live his increasingly shrunken life. The movie begins with youth and wide-open vistas and ends in middle-age in a tiny trailer. The one scene that broke my heart is wholly ordinary: Ennis, alone in a cafeteria booth, head down, picking at a piece of pie. He’s alone, and will remain alone, no matter how many waitresses try to drag his ass onto the dance floor.

This is why the movie is striking a chord with the non-gay community. Ennis resonates because he reminds us of some part of us. Life has such possibilities, and from lack of courage or weariness or outright fear we allow it to shrink us into this small, sad space doing this small, sad thing. Don’t look at my face because you might see who I am. The film does what it’s supposed to do. It’s specific but it’s universal.

A coupla straight guys sitting around talking

As for my friends Laurion, Eric and Jim? They’ve all changed their minds. Everyone’s talking about “Brokeback” and they want to be part of that conversation. Laurion hasn’t seen it yet but will. Eric thought it good if slightly overrated. Jim thought it one of the best movies of the year.

So no matter what happens March 5th, “Brokeback” has already won.

Erik Lundegaard can be reached at: elundegaard@mn.rr.com